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The Ten Commandments of Everyday Living 9

Do not gossip or bitch about others, the weather, life – or indeed anything else.

Eventually, whatever the nature of the spiritual path we are on, we will meet with the idea of self-responsibility.  This engagement represents a milestone on the road to freedom, but it is also the end of innocence: never again will we be able to claim and believe that we are the hapless victims of a life gone wrong.

Life manifests in the only way it can, because the present is but the past unfolded.  This is as true of our individual lives as it is at the planetary level: it is as true within the space of one lifetime as it is across lifetimes.  We are responsible for the events that befall us and for the people we attract.  Surely, we can get caught up in the karma of another, but our own karma will have attracted that person to us.  Our defence against people and situations whose influence we do not want in our lives is honest assessment and intelligent choice.  This too is as true of karmic situations brought through from past life as it is of decisions made in everyday life.

The person who bitches about life and gossips about others has not yet reached the place of self-responsibility, because if he had he would know that he has created the world in which he lives.

The opportunity offered to man now is to work with this realisation and to shape the future by living consciously in the present, rather than leaving the future to come through on its default setting.

In incarnation at this time, there is now a whole generation responding to this awareness, albeit with differing levels of consciousness.  This generation has Pluto in Libra and, according to DK in Esoteric Astrology, Libra is the sign in which the involutionary wheel reverses and conscious choice begins to shape development.  And so when they swerve around the duties, obligations and daily acts of slavery to the god of materialism that, resentfully, we say must be taken up by responsible adults, before judging their fecklessness and lack of responsibility, consider that they may be trying to break free from conditioned patterns and find a greater place for freedom and possibility in the future they are creating for themselves, for the human family and for our planet.

Bitching and complaining achieves nothing except a temporary gratification of the self-important, self-pitying ego which wants to believe it deserves better.  The English, expressing the negative aspect of the Third Ray, are consummate whiners and vitriolic critics; Americans, by contrast, indulge in self-pity and emotive denunciation, which is a Sixth Ray shadow.

Whether it is whining and criticising, or self-pity and denunciation, the underpinning assumption is that life and the circumstances and people which it manifests should be other than they are.  We are quite entitled to want things to be other than they are, but the responsibility for bringing about change remains with us, because the placing of responsibility outside of ourselves consigns us to a place of impotence in our own lives. We have created the world which we see.  We do not believe it, and often to do not want to believe it, because the responsibility conferred by this realisation is total.

The fabric of the world which we perceive is created not from things and people themselves but from the relationship we have with those things and people.

In Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings, Tom Bombadil  - a character who did not make it into the film -  took up the ring which all of the Fellowship, from Gandalf to Sam Gamgee, feared so much, and played with it, tossing it into the air, spinning it round, and peering through it.  His mind had constructed no relationship with the evil of Sauron, and without this relationship the ring was powerless, simply a gold trinket.

For a human being, the point of incarnation is the opportunity to live amongst the relationships of our making and understand that they are externalisations of our own reality.  Can you not find a freedom in tracing back the negativity in your life to the negativity in your mind, because then you require nothing and nobody other than yourself to sort it?

Grey days, flat tyres, shortage of money, abusive, uncaring people… none of these things actually shapes our world; it is the negative relationship that we have with these things that does that.  So if we do not feel able to change the weather or the dynamic in our partnerships, override mechanical defects or increase the amount of money we have (and the fully conscious individual, in fact, can do all these things), then we can change the relationship that we have with these things so that they do not get us down and take us hostage.  It does not take a Zen Master to reframe on this level; it simply takes a willingness to be more philosophical and less accusatory.  If we cannot feel positive about a flat tyre, at least we could feel neutral about it.  Tyres will go flat – it is in their nature to do - and flats are not evidence of a plot hatched against us by the cosmos. Although we can believe that if we wish.  Our lives would be so much less sour and stressed if we would take the emotive reaction out of the relationship we create with people and situations; but, generally, we do not even try because we are conditioned to react in certain ways.  Complaining and feeling persecuted and hard done unto is easier than taking responsibility.  We consider that it our entitlement to moan, even though many people at this time are perfectly aware that expressing negativity simply increases the power that situations have over us.

There is a stage on the path when we will reinforce our own identity as spiritually aware beings by criticising those whose lives and paths are not as spiritually aware as we consider we are.  In those who are not spiritually aware, this takes the form of prejudice against those who are different in their lifestyles and, as such, a threat to decent values. To point at the perceived deviant and gossip makes us feel more sure of ourselves and what we are trying to do.  We like to believe we are serving spiritual values by doing this.  The price we pay for this intolerance is separation and isolation, and we simply add to the sum of negativity in the world.

There is a very effective antidote for this kind of intolerance: recall some stupid thing you have done (and, for sure, you won’t have to think back very far!), and recall also the misery and pain you experience on a regular basis, and then ask yourself if this is what being right feels like.  If so, then maybe wrong has something to recommend it!

We do not know what others are trying to achieve and we do not need to know.  The only thing that need concern us is what we are about.

Whatever George W. Bush might be doing, those who criticise him with such relish might do well to consider whether in watching him they are not being distracted from things that they might be able to do something about.  To look for the veniality, greed and self-interest in our own lives is a more useful place to be scrutinising than the political arena, unless we intend to be active in this arena.  Howling at the TV screen is not being politically active.

Besides, the quality of our leaders does not make a jot of difference to our ability to achieve positivity and mastery in our own lives.  Egotism likes to say that we deserve better.  Obviously we do not or we would have better: life manifests in the only way that it can because the present is the past unfolded.

Let us get working on what comes next – what better can we do, the future being the present unfolded.  The place to start is the relationships which make up the world we perceive.

Suzanne Rough

The DK Foundation

October 2006

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