Ten Commandments of Everyday Living: 2
your intention always before you - set goals for the day and at regular
intervals during the day realign yourselves with them and confirm
setting and accomplishing goals, the personality prepares itself to act as
an agent of spiritual will and to be a creative force in the world of
manifestation. Accomplishing goals is not a happy accident; it is the
product of discipline and application.
At first, any goal or target will do in order to train the mind,
emotions and the physical vehicle to co-operate with each other to secure
its accomplishment. The goals set and rewarded by society are adequate for
comes a stage in development, however, when the quality of the goals
themselves does matter. Much rebellion and alienation occurs at this stage
when the emergence of spiritual awareness creates a different set of
values and priorities. An individual, who is beginning to respond to the
alternatives, no longer has the same interest or belief in the goals that
are supported by conditioning, and may resent and resist making time and
energy available for them.
a rule, rebellion is not handled intelligently. It is viewed as a
punishable offence and the signs are not read for the insights that they
could provide. This is as true when we condemn ourselves for what we are
not achieving as when chastisement comes from an external source.
KH says in his answer to GH, published this month, ‘spirit has ever
challenged form to yield up the highest of which it is capable’. By
means of the goals set by our mental faculties, we invite into our
personality life the challenge of spirit.
can keep a person in thrall to values that will never make the best of the
opportunity that is a lifetime. Much of the client work undertaken by DKF
involves encouraging people to find out what is their true relationship to
the goals to which they say they are committed. Often those goals are
lacking in authenticity and, from the point of view of an individual’s
development, without value.
who have committed to spirituality are as prone to adopting inauthentic
goals as those who have not. A basic lack of understanding of the process
of spirituality itself and a want of perspective concerning the true level
of development can, and often does, result in wholly unsuitable goals.
are suitable goals for spiritually aware people? Suitable goals are those
which do justice to the developmental requirement of a lifetime. The
informing life of the personality, the solar angel, constructs the plan
for an incarnation around an intention to take new ground for
consciousness and, at the same time, balance out tendencies within
consciousness. This intention and the nature of the new ground to be taken
are discernable through the natal chart. But we need not make ourselves
reliant upon astrology readings: we can learn to hear and understand the
quiet voice of the soul speaking through the events and experiences of our
lives. In practice, however, the promptings of the soul are so quickly
drowned out by the voice of conditioning, which makes us fear and condemn
any unforeseen and unwelcome development and makes us cling to the comfort
of conforming to socially accepted goals.
if we take the astrological route, it does not mean to say that every
single decision has to be checked out against a chart. There will be many
routes to the same place. We will have intelligent choices to make.
At the point of making a decision we have to develop the habit of
asking ourselves whether the decision is in line with intention and
whether it will take us further in our rightful direction. This is as
important in small things as it is in large ones, because longer term
goals are either served or frustrated by the quality of our immediate
goals. If we do not know where we are taking our lives, what do we use as
our terms of reference?
Do we sign up for conventional goals or will we try and co-operate
with the intention built into our lives? What do we decide if the two are
The choices that we make will determine how fast we move along the
path of evolution.
become a better person is not suitable as a goal because it is imprecise
but, hopefully, such an aspiration will be realised as the result of
achieving more specific goals that are compatible with the design of our
goals is one aspect of intentional living. The other is disciplining self
to perform in line with intention. Most likely, we will
try to avoid the stages in training that we find boring or taxing,
but basic disciplines like doing housework, keeping on top of
correspondence, keeping temper and irritability under control and
demonstrating awareness of others are essential pre-requisites. Any no-go
area is a fatal flaw in the structure which, at any time, may bring down
bluster about how we don’t care / don’t see domestic disorder and
enjoy ‘creative chaos’ is simply self-delusion. The outer reflects the
inner and a person who lives amongst chaos is in a state of inner chaos
and that is a source of suffering even if it has not yet been recognised.
Arrogance and unkindness towards others is never justified and is utterly
unacceptable when directed by those with spiritual aspirations towards
those with none.
liking something is not the same as not seeing the value of it. The person
who would be effective has to be able to make this distinction and to
enable his sense of what matters to override his dislike. In its own way,
this is a form of liberation which no-one who has ever lived in chaos will
ever underestimate. Rebellion brought about by not liking something is
petulance; rebellion brought about by genuinely not seeing the value of
something is in a different league. Can you make the distinction between
the two in the context of your own life?
are three golden rules connected with effective goal setting:
Do not even start trying
to commit to goals to change your life until have you imposed physical
order upon your domestic and working environment and until, at the very
least, you subscribe to the concept of respect for others. Without these
basics in place you will simply waste your time and do damage to your
faith in your ability to change your life.
Do not commit to
something in which you do not believe. You may be in situations – many
of them - in which you consider that you have to comply. This simply means
that the things to which you can commit remain to be found.
Compliance is no substitute for commitment.
Do not commit to
anything about which you are uncertain. Ambivalence is as big a saboteur
of effort as outright doubt and yet more subtle in its working. Take more
time and explore the matter some more before committing, so that you are
not battling with a divided mind in addition to an intransigent emotional
and physical self.
emotional and physical aspects of self each has their own ability to react
to anything imposed from the mental level and will do so, usually without
enthusiasm, once the novelty has worn off.
Know the inevitability of this and be prepared for it by being able
to remind yourself why you have decided to commit to this particular goal.
If we cannot remember or we are ambivalent about its value then we will
almost certainly give up.
maybe we all have to have the experience of giving up on certain goals in
order to know how very important they are to us. They keep our lives
purposeful. Humans who have moved beyond the subsistence stage of
existence and who are without purpose are skittering around the void.
Purposelessness is a source of profound suffering as human consciousness
becomes more responsive to the mental level. Yet we Westerners live in a
world where our societies and organised religions are less and less able
to give self-conscious individuals the goals in which they can believe.
This being the case, we have to set them for ourselves and find from
within ourselves the motivation to keep going. To live in accordance with
intention is one of the greatest gifts that we can give to ourselves. It
is a gift from spirit.
have our own goals does not mean we cannot be flexible or responsive to
others and no spiritually aware person can afford to set goals that are
separatist in intention, but to have a clear intention enables us to know
what we can and cannot compromise/sacrifice, and how to set boundaries
without which we will turn around on the spot like a boat with a broken
rudder. In this position are the countless numbers of people who are
trying to ‘become better’ and who, having identified egotism as the
problem, are unsure how to think in any positive way either about
themselves or about being assertive. In consequence, their lives are
simply a series of reactions to external demands made by other people,
taken on indiscriminately and often involving them in contradictory
stances. People in this position are almost always confused, disappointed
and deeply angry.
have no business throwing upon others the responsibility of the direction
of our lives. When we meet with this statement mostly we will agree
readily with it, but we will often not recognise what we are doing in
everyday life when we allow others to commandeer our time and energy and
pull us into things in which we do not believe or in which we should not
be involved. There will always be distractions to erode intention and they
will not always appear as the Seven Deadly Sins. Beware of those that
pluck at your sleeve and ask you to become involved where your help is not
problem shared, a problem halved chirps the proverb.
Discernment is aware that a problem shared around can be a drama in
the making. Be alert to the sentimentality which afflicts the spiritually
minded and makes us see things as other than they are.