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summer we are looking at the things that we can do to help ourselves in
the on-going battle against negativity and inertia. Irma
Vocht continues her series of articles about
conditions that are responsible for inactivity and under achievement, and
recommens flower essence remedies. This month: Blame
and Responsibility Previous Articles:
We also recommended daily
practice of BLAME
AND RESPONSIBILITY
Have you ever used the phrase
“It’s not my fault” or “It is his or her fault that I’m now
suffering”, or do you say nothing but act from an inner sense of having
been wronged and abused. It is very easy to adopt this
stance and uses these phrases, as most of us have been brought up to use
language like this. I hear it on a daily basis in my work – at which I
gently point out hat we have to take responsibility for our own actions
and thoughts. The way this works is as
follows: if I have chosen a relationship in which there is an abusive
situation, the likelihood is that this scenario will repeat itself in
other relationships. If I were to take responsibility for self, I would
have to look at why I am attracted to people who abuse me in order to stop
this pattern. In life, we attract things, or unknowingly chose situations
that we need to learn from. When we haven’t learned the lesson the first
time around, the situation will repeat itself, and again and again. Once
we have learned from it, we have grown, and outgrown this situation and
then we are ready to move on to the next learning experience. But, of
course, it is far less effort to lay blame. The learning experiences will
be painful – but they are part of life! There is no getting away from
this. And the sooner one accepts this, the better, as this actually makes
it less painful (the more you struggle, the more painful it is!). You can
adopt another attitude and say “I don’t wish to take part in
this misery and choose to feel positive”.
But there is nothing better or more empowering than to come out on
the other side feeling liberated. So instead of ‘acting’ the victim,
try to ‘act’ the student in life and observe how you might be able to
learn from your experience and train your mind to think different from
before. Try to see people who on the surface seem to obstruct your life,
as teachers, who you have chosen on a subconscious level to instruct you
to change your attitude. Whenever you are about to say ‘It’s your fault’ to someone, try to say to yourself ’but I allowed this situation to happen’ and take responsibility. Try to make yourself stronger – you’ll be surprised at your own strength! This principle works also with
the smaller things in life. We all have automatic responses to these
things. How many times a day do you say that you can’t do
something? Is it because you’ve tried once and didn’t succeed? Or is
it because you don’t want to fail? Or is it actually more comfortable to
be helpless and let others fuss around you? Many diseases and ailments have their roots in an emotion and there are many clues in our language today that remind us of times when people might have been more in touch with why they were suffering.
Each organ has an affinity with certain emotions:
So next time you are suffering
from some ailment, you are able to relate it back to an emotion that might
have gone on in the previous days/weeks/years. Now you can take
responsibility! None of us are helpless beings. One of the best ways to
empower yourself is to take charge of your life, your thoughts and your
actions! I find that when I am treating
people’s ‘emotional state’, the physical ailments go generally very
quickly. Of course in some instances one does need to consider the
maintaining cause (a factor that might be part or entirely responsible for
some suffering). Things like diet, toxicity and lifestyle all play an
important role in the general well-being of a person. Irma Vocht, SDS Hom Homeopath Email: irma.vocht@virgin.net © Irma Vocht 2005 |
